Fight for it!
That’s what they say all the time. If you want it, fight for it. You can do anything you want if you apply yourself, do the work and earn it. However, what if the fight you’re fighting has no end? What if the fight you’re fighting is really just change? Change personally, emotionally, in the workplace, with friends, in general or anything for that matter.
What’s the best way to deal with this challenge? Truth is, I don’t know.
One way of thinking that has consistently plagued me for as long as I can remember, is the fact that I more so than not, expect people around me to think and make choices like I do. If I’m being honest with myself, I’m not sure if this is a selfish thing or an expectation that I shouldn’t rely on. It’s no secret that everyone think’s they’re right about everything they say or do and I’m no different. However, I do something else in the process and use a way different approach, but expect the same out of people a lot of the times and that’s my problem.
It’s very difficult to think about and face, but at times, I’m the problem. Just because I think one way, doesn’t mean the other is not correct. It’s a difficult thing to process and the fact that I expect myself out of people makes zero sense. Everyone needs to be themselves and have every right to. In the end , this isn’t about other people and what they decide to do, it’s about me and the way I need to or have been approaching.
I’ll go back to the title of this post that right now as I continue writing, doesn’t make much sense, but I hope it does when I conclude.
I’m a firm believer in a ton of things, but if this is a similar problem that we share, fight is the right word to describe the mindset. If you think about what pisses you off, bothers you, sets you off or anything like that, just ask why? Why do you care? If it’s a situational thing that’s out of your control, why stress yourself out?! Damn, I feel old now, why test my blood pressure?? WHY?! It’s because whatever in our little world that we’re obsessing over is so damn important to us that it turns into passion and emotion. It’s truly out of our control, but fight comes to mind here. I want to fight and keep myself in the game no matter what the cost. I want to fight for the right thing, even if I have to go down a long road and turn corners I’m afraid of. Blindly, I know the fight will be worth it in the end, but everyone must be honest with themselves. Everything doesn’t end in a damn fairy tale, it can quickly turn to garbage and we have to deal with that, too!
Here’s my rational with that, though. It turned to garbage for a damn good reason. When we were 5 years old, we thought spilling milk was the end of the world! In middle school, I saw armpit hair and thought I was abnormal. In high school, all of my relationships were the beginning and end of life as we know it.
Think about your mindset during those times and I hope you chuckle, but at the time they were the most important things in my life at the time and to compare it to the life I have now, is just ridiculous….
So to close this, I think the worst things in life are the risks you don’t take, good or bad. This is the same as fight and every single time someone tells me to pick my battles, it makes me cringe, but it’s true in some situations for sure. However, it’s up to you to choose those battles, look into the future and turn down the roads you’re afraid of, because those are the ones you learn the most from and will shape you to be a better you the next day and remember to never be afraid of failing. We have to fail in order to improve ourselves in every aspect of life!!
Always fight for you…
B
