I’ve written a lot about overcoming adversity and I feel strongly about my opinion there. We have to take in all challenges in life, overcome them, learn from them and most importantly, better ourselves for others.
Typically, we do these things to better ourselves, but what I’m suggesting is making your surroundings a better place for all. The selfish mentality doesn’t work in any setting, however, if you apply selflessness to your challenges, the outcome WILL surprise you and reward at the same time.
Here’s something I’ve learned in the recent weeks; I get in my own head and destroy myself with matters that aren’t life threatening or even at that type of level. I’ve doubted myself and during the process, I don’t say nice things to myself. There should be zero room for one to do this to themselves! Zero!
So, all of this brings me to a point of reflection. What is really going on here?
Optimism… Glass half full or half empty? We’ve all been in a situation where someone has chosen to give direction based off this scenario. Well, screw that!! You can’t just look at all of your problems in life or anything for that matter and tell yourself, at least I’m ‘half full’ or ‘half empty’. I’m trying to think what that even means when applying this thought process to a life decision, like a school my daughter should or shouldn’t go to. Or, a real example of something that happened at her school when I found out racism has finally entered her life. Screw the glass, I was livid!! What do you do?? The answer for me, is optimism. Let’s be real, life is going to happen and control is an illusion. I can’t stop things like this from happening no matter how hard I try. The only thing I can do is do my best to raise my daughter and protect as much as possible. I need to be aware that these life challenges are going to happen, but I’m optimistic in the sense that if I do the best I can for her, she can face a challenging situation and be ready for it. I will fall on any sword to prevent her from having to.
This isn’t my most favorite blog post, but it’s my current mood. Life throws curve-balls at us daily and we have to adapt, create a work around, and maintain ourselves throughout the entire process. The major point is, don’t get lost inside yourself, apply that to others that can gain from your mistakes and life lessons. Put the very people in your life in front and in place of you. This is not a risk, so there is no reward, but, in the end you will see the outcome of dedication, hard work, selflessness, truly giving everything and the release of thinking you have control over this thing we call life…
Optimism will continue to be a challenge for me, but it’s a must. Anyone can get super low and fall into a place they don’t want to be in or thought they would never be in. It’s time we found our way out of that! If you cling on to the positive while being optimistic, it opens your mind to new things and I’m hoping I can be a true testament to that. I know I’m working my ass off to be, but that control thing, is still a massive illusion.
Just be the best you…
<3
B
